Actually..mother's day should be everyday. I Know I would like Mothers Day more if they changed the official hymn of the day from Love at Home to this one (to be sung from the perspective of the mother): 1. Honoring Fallen Parents: The Fifth Commandment and Romans 3:23 The Fifth Commandment enjoins: "Honor thy father and thy mother." Worst Moms Day talk ever: when we (and most of our friends) were newlyweds, one of our friends (a guy) was asked to give the big glory of motherhood talk. Julie B. Beck reminds women what it means to be a mother who knows listing a number of attributes, including the principles of bearing children, honoring sacred covenants, nurturing others, doing less, teaching, and leading. Not at church anyway. The average of the survey said their bishopric probably spends about $1 per sister for Mothers Day gifts. This talk teaches us how rearing up children in righteousness can help keep them safe in an increasingly wicked world and how what happens in the home can benefit communities and nations. It has been another hellish week, reminding me of all my faults and short-comings as a mother, all that went wrong for me as a daughter, and it has all brought me a liitle closer to God, who is repeatedly teaching me that one-size-does-not-fit-all, or most or even many. Snickers. I chuckled, but was not surprised when I saw that chocolate was the most popular! me) before deciding on these speakers. There are diabetic men, arent there? Then they would close by saying that it was the most wonderful blessing imaginable. This has been a big concern for me, as there are many women in the ward who are very sensitive to the Perfect Mother talks, and I didnt want to heap on to their burdens. Gag. I was honored to have known her, and to have been able to claim her as my own. Primary kids singing, oh, 12 songs, and then someone real standing up and talking about the incredible power of hope, even when we feel that we dont measure up, and the wonder of the atonement and Gods love for us. Mother's Day Singing Time Idea. Many times, it seems bishoprics want to put women on a pedestal for a day, while trying not to offend anyone. Why? It is a simple answer, and it is trueThe most important thing a father can do for his [daughter] is to love [her] mother.'. Daughters of God No fuss, no muss. But I see where you are coming from. Yea like all of you My Mother sucked too. Well give you an honest deal! Sacrament Meeting Program LDS 4+ - App Store Ohand did you say you had an extra ticket??? Sacrament Meeting - The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints Scriptural women are perhaps safer :-) And in our ward, the men get cans of Dads Root Beer or Sugar Daddy candies. Some years it gets a nod, other years the talks are unrelated. I meant an ideal not an idea! Mother's Day: My talk by Kaimi Wenger May 5, 2009 23 Comments It's hard to strike the right balance, between affirming Moms who really need to be told that they made a good decision; and letting others (especially women) know that they're okay, too. The Best LDS Talks on Motherhood | LDS Daily . #28 Love the song choice of I Have Work Enough To Do as a tribute. I love your idea of wearing different color of flowers. What to Expect at Latter-day Saint Church Services End of rant. And Im batting clean up. Avoid speaking of angel mothers. The speaker described how she saw her mothertake stock of the smoking wreckage of her life, humble herself, and begin the heroic and difficult work of transforming her life into something she didnt need to be ashamed of anymore. 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Your ward contains women at various stages of their lives, including some who dont have children and never will. Maybe we should do it eucharistic-like so I dont have to feel guilty? What does it mean when we want to remove motherhood from Mother's Day? Along with activities and programs during the week, Latter-day Saints gather on Sundays for an approximately hour-long "sacrament" meeting, where men, women and younger members offer prayers and give sermons, sing hymns and partake of the sacrament (similar to receiving communion). Mothers, we acknowledge and esteem your faith in every footstep. Use Mothers Day as an example of how a saint can use a tradition of men as an acceptable way to express Gods love and promulgate the Gospel. He did not have any high-profile ward or stake calling at the time, not that it matters. Said she, If you havent convinced your mother that you love her the other 364 days of the year, nothing you say on Mothers Day is worth a damn.. 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Do you also not need an idea such as the Savior, your Father in Heaven or your Heavenly Mother? This talk by Elaine S. Dalton helps fathers understand the importance of loving and cherishing the women in their life. I want to hear about the mother who lost all her children, because she made a lot of mistakes. That wouldn't let her do such and suchall things in the end that weren't good for her daughter to do, one way of looking at it. I hope none of you mind if I quote from this. I feel for how it hurts people to attend church and the sorrows they bear. It is also a reminder that through His mercy and grace, all people will be resurrected and given the opportunity for eternal life with God. Make it different, and they will see you are trying. Topical Guide, Assembly for Worship, Index to the Triple Combination, Assemble, Meetings in the Church, Handbook 2, 18, Speaking in Sacrament Meeting? youth.ChurchofJesusChrist.org, Is Sacrament Meeting a Top-of-the-Mountain Experience for You? 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My oldest, the musical and noisy one, composed parodies of many favorite primary songs about a decade ago when she was under the tyranny of those zealous but misguided young mothers. Any suggestions as to what you would truly and realistically appreciate being presented? Have all the talks be by women. I remember being confused by a few Mothers Day talks growing up. Weve gathered this collection to help you study, write talks, and share powerful LDS quotes about mothers. Im even okay when they hand out plants. Ive been jinxed. For the past two years, I have been passed over because other women tell the youth passing out the gift, that they need to take one for so-and-so, shes ill today,without looking for women in the room that havent received one yet. So no one is left out. Perhaps the reason so many women have an aversion to an all Sacrament Mtg. Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Gospel Q&A: Do We Really Have the Spirit With Us All the Time? Ive decided to see if I can discern consistent reasons why the good ones are good and the bad ones are terrible. Being there with my son was very nice. Sacrament Meetings - The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints I know that traditionally it has been men and children who honor mothers. This blog post is the result of my musing. Keep in mind, this is from a male perspective, andmy opinions might be worth exactly what you paid for them. Why are women so disenchanted with motherhood when we value it so highly? For those in Europe, is Mothers Day celebrated to the same awful-gut-wrenching extent? It was the first Mothers Day since she died. by Leading Saints | Apr 27, 2016 | Articles, Bishops, Elders Quorum, Relief Society | 21 comments, In 2016 Leading Saints conducted a survey about ward mothers day gifts. I also choose to focus on the women in the scriptures like #30 has mentioned. I have seen, heard and experienced much of the imperfections, joys and sorrows in life, and know that reaching out for and holding on to the Iron Rod brings souls closer to the ideals with every step. I spoke about her one year. The primary children sing and we are making a mothers day gift in primary. But her mother held a yardstick, and if her daughter played the wrong key, her mother smacked her across the back ofher hands, thus providing sufficient negative reinforcement to motivate her to do it right the next time through. Identifying ideals is somehow so treacherous for the psyches of women that that must never be mentioned? Aleah is a graduate of Southern Virginia University, where she studied English, Creative Writing, and Dance. Thanks. Ideals ALL! Excuse everyone after Sacrament meeting to spend the time with their mothers. Motherhood is more than bearing children, though it is certainly that. Another angle in this specific holidayhas been brewing for a while. Thanks for clarifying. We once had a bishop hand out frozen TV dinners! Crowd-sourcing request. What is the trigger to close the thread? Some were difficult for metotell without choking up. So be kind to her. Im sorry too for the harshness In my expression in a previous thread regarding your views of sacrament meeting. The best MD talk I ever heard was given by my neighbor. Be patient with her imperfections, for she has them. There are a number of other conference talks on the subject (righteous traditions, family traditions, etc.). I can only pray no one will take offense, as I certainly never mean any offense. Listen to her. Evry idle whisper stilling Mother's Day Last year I used the last verse of "Teach Me to Walk in the Light" and the song "Teacher/Mother Do You Love Me" for the Mother's Day Primary songs in sacrament meeting. I am not sure what other words I can use to convey my meaning when I rely so heavily on tone. In the same way, when we make a dramatic production of Mothers Day, I fear that we are sometimestrying to compensate for the way we devalue the real and important work they do on the other 364 days of the year. I dont remember terribly well, but at the Episcopal church I attended for a while, I dont think Mothers Day was nearly as emphasized as it is in the LDS church, because its not part of the liturgical calendar. I could send you a PDF of the sheet music, but it's probably too late now for your choir and Primary to prepare in time for Mother's Day. Fun Photos of Latter-day Saint Leaders in the Snow! It demands that the single day of the year that Mother's are celebrated to a holiday that is solely for adult females and no one else. Sabbath Day Scriptures Scripture References Doctrine and Covenants 59:9-12 Scripture Study Resources Topical Guide, "Assembly for Worship" Its never the men. In Bishopric meeting this year, I quoted your little sister regarding plants. Sacrament - The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints Could someone remind of what the day is for after all? President Eyringonce said that when he meets somebody for the first time, he assumes that person is struggling mightily with an intractable problem, and cannot see any possible solution. Feelings of guilt, shame, loneliness, anger, disappointment, abandonment, and not measuring up to impossible expectations are prevalent. See also What to Expect at Church Services. Plus, I thought it was extra cool that the Bish consulted the RS pres. She cares about your eternal safety and happiness. I like the post. Still, I think the flak about Sister Becks talk is nonsense. She never got her kids back and they never forgave her, and she died of some incurable stress induced disease. But in Argentina, where Mothers Day is in October, they also tended to recognize International Womens Day (March 8) even in church (in addition to a wide variety of other holidays Childrens Day, Grandparents Day, etc.). Or the best of both worldssend all women to RS and have the chocolate there so you get the women to walk through the door instead of to their cars, and so the kids arent begging for it? Further, that it wasnt the wards responsibility to celebrate the day. For myself and kindred too, What does that say about us as a people? It is Mother's Day and yet the day is supposed to about everything about women EXCEPT being a mother. This is brilliant, Mark. After living with me for almost 17 years, hed better get it right! Let us take as self-evident that, in reality, not all women are naturally pure or spiritual. And out the door I flee. She discusses the divinity of motherhood and how every woman can become a mother in the world around her. Jana Riess: LDS Church's slow shift away from demonizing working mothers Although I like the idea of them as well! Well, count me among the lucky ones who are speaking this coming Sunday. Seriously, no one is going to be pleased. Last year, I did an arrangement of "I Often Go Walking" for the Primary children and our ward choir to perform together. Because school is out in June, Fathers get the bum end of the deal when it comes to recognition. At one point they cut down a tree and paraded it into town to symbolize the mother of the Gods (Asherah, anyone?). Thank you to everyone! The water is a reminder that the Savior shed His blood in intense spiritual suffering and anguish, beginning in the Garden of Gethsemane and concluding on the cross. Sadly, though, it probably caused a lot of pain to the listeners. So He can be ideal AND real. I have been called by God to be there and that is where I should be. Mark, very good advice IMO. The perfect hymn for Mothers Day Sacrament meeting. I do think a lot of Mormon women enjoy talks that validate their efforts at motherhood, and I think some of these talks get interpreted as angel mother talks when theyre really not. Have a variety of ages speak on ideas or what they've done to help their mothers and ways they've stayed close to their mothers. I miss her something terrible, and being at the grave-site really brought all of those emotions to the surface. May the blessings of heaven rest upon you. Check out our selection of LDS church programs for baptisms, church activities, and sacrament meetings. Most threads die a natural death. And chocolate. It appears that we have adopted the perverted sense of inclusion to such a degree that we cannot mention our gratitude for our mothers and motherhood without "hurting" or "marginalizing" those who are not mothers. kc I love me some Pres. A year later he died in a car accident, and the children went back to mom, whose life was now very different. I may have to borrow that. I am glad you had a good father, but honestly, that attitude is what keeps me away. Products; . How about honoring our mothers by not just focusing on what they do or have done for us (guilt trip for those that feel they never do enough) but focus on ways the members can help their mothers throughout each stage of their life. You dont come, you dont get one. It was a very honest list, but emphasized that the things she would change had nothing to do with looking good, acting a certain way, or different callings. I cant quite relate that to Motherhood but maybe he will. They really did. It was designed with ward choirs and Sacrament Meeting musical numbers in mind. We like to celebrate mothers in the Church and we like to ignore fatherhood. Sacrament meeting is for honoring and remembering the Savior, its not Fathers Day or Mothers Day, its the Saviors Day! And this is all in addition to the everyday problems like getting the bills paid and the laundry done. I gave a MD talk one year and focused on Emma Smith, Naomi the MIL of Ruth and my daughter who was a young mother at the time. (Just what mothers need on an already stressful day . Also, try to remember that not all the women in the congregation are mothers - which may be because they can't be. It just screamed, whoops, we forgot to order flowers in time and ran out to walmart last night and bought up whatever womanly thing we could find. In return, the Lord renews the promised remission of sin and enables Church members to always have his Spirit to be with them (Doctrine and Covenants 20:77). And the Uchtdorf talk on grace from last conference and his talk on the flowers might be good ones. Ugh.chocolate and cheescake.and NO TALKS!!! Oh yes, Ive read the scriptures to be like Him, to be perfect. Her mother didnt come across as being perfect, but rather imperfect but faithfully trying, and her simple persistent efforts turned out to be eternally valuable. That was the job of the family, and for single sisters, the home teacher. We know very little about HM and HF really. When mothers know who they are and who God is and have made covenants with Him, they will have great power and influence for good on their children.. Wow! They do not need to be perfect in order to partake of the sacrament, but they should have a spirit of humility and repentance in their hearts. I cant quite get them right and they would certainly be expunged by the moderators anyway. Even men who are on diets. Why is that or is that just in my ward? Ive taken as the Ward Music Chair person and conductor to pick hymns and have a couple special musical numbers, but does anyone have any ideas for a small token we could pass out to the men? Too much idealism masks reality and can quickly become propaganda and lies. Elder Ballard mainly focused on young mothers in this talk from 2008. Give the gift of time. Regular G.A.S. Speaking for myself, I think Fathers Day is much easier. With that in mind, there are great ideas in this discussion thread of ways to do exactly that. The Best Ward Mother's Day Gift - Leading Saints In order to equally celebrate Fatherhood , the males (12 years+) all get Nachos on Fathers Day (served up by the RS Presidency.). Dont twist the knife; let them come to you if they want it. The fathers dont seem to feel as guilty about things as the mothers do,,,. At the end theyll get a rose with some message tied onto the stem with ribbon about how Jesus loves all women. People seemed to feel good about it but Mark is right about it being a fraught day. Why in the church is there such a strong, almost secular aversion to motherhood? Christmas is not a universal holiday and thus we should not celebrate one day a year, We focus on Christ every day and every Sunday so there is no need to celebrate on Christmas. My favorite Mothers Day talk was my own talk. rockpond Nothing, wakes people up in sacrament meeting like talking about chimpanzees dismembering each other. What does that say about us as a people? I have some ideas of speaker topics but I thought I would start a thread for suggestions of topics, scriptures, conference talks, etc that would help make a great Sacrament Meeting that honors Motherhood while also keeping a focus on Christ. She talked about how her convert mother negotiated church attendance with her inactive husband, how she brought the gospel into the home to the extent she could while maintaining close family ties and coping with her own faith struggles, and how her example and choices blessed her home. Aleah Ingram For sacrament meeting, we can give the men a sternly worded warning about the danger of tehpernogriffiez. Geesh! I am a single (divorced) old man with no children. Focus on womanhood and examples of strong women, not on a perfect homemaker mother. We can all sound harsh at times, but this seems to be a community of sorts and following through on the different dicussions helps put context to opinions expressed. All I wish that EVERY ward had a FD talk on what unrighteousness dominion is, and why it should be the job of every priesthood holder and father to raise sons who understand it and daughters who wont stand for it. Submitting to the will of the Father, He suffered more than we can comprehend: Blood [came] from every pore, so great [was] his anguish for the wickedness and the abominations of his people (Mosiah 3:7). We teach that you are basically good or even great (gods in embryo), that you are responsible for your actions and that you can actually make other people do what is right through prayer and works especially your children, that the sins you accumulate both those of commission and omission are entirely your fault, that Christ is not really in the middle of the picture until you really screw up and commit something unforgiveable like adultery and that you need to try harder to keep every one of those commandments or you are going to lose your reward of having a planet & of having eternal sex , and the celestial DFAC will snatch your children from you and destroy your perfect family sprouting from the buried nuts of polygamy where mother valently hoisted the impossible burdens. Ere the sun goes down: The answer has been taught by the Lords prophets. Its hard to please everyone. Then the clincher, it is only for women to celebrate and they need to be left alone to celebrate it as they demand and see fit. I agree Ray. More often than not, his assumption is correct. I just spent two hours reading all the comments, viewing the video mentioned in #90, and taking notes. It might be that it was a holiday originally conceived by the US Socialist Party and propagated by the Soviets. President Hinckley directly addresses mothers in this talk, commending them for the wonderful thing they have done by becoming mothers, but offering insights on their greatest challenge: to be able to answer the question How well have my children done? with happiness. His explanation was not to offend any sister. My Sacrament Meeting Prayer - Rational Faiths | Mormon Blog Integrate how Jesus takes care of his mother's future well being while hanging on the cross with the scripture John 19:26-27. At the end of the survey there was a comments box where individuals could leave specific feedback to bishoprics that organize Mothers Day. XD. Something else for me to kill.. Thanks for thinking of me, my youngest bishop son! After the explanation, both seemed excited and accepted the challenge willingly. It would just be nice to complete our idealism with a good dose of reality. But since youre not, Im bowing out this year. Sisters would come up to me and express that MD was hard for them also for various reasonsone was abused by her mother while another friend had lost a mother she loved as a teenager so cried all day long. I wonder if a member of our bishopric reads this blog? My mother died just a little less than a year ago, and I find that I never appreciated Mothers Day at all until now that my mother is gone. For the third verse, I composed a counterpoint for the choir to sing while the kids sang the melody. We should not celebrate anything unless it is universally acknowledged around the world. This past Mother's Day we arrived late to sacrament meeting due to a cobbling mishap in the morning. I recommend it highly: This! (http://dandelionmama.wordpress.com/2012/05/08/this-this-is-what-i-believe/). Best Mother's Day Topics, Scriptures, Conference Talks, Etc. No one tries to probe for subliminal meaning in the choice of Fat Boys. It very gently re-addressed several of the points that were flying in the newspapers and throughout the church in the Mothers Who Know backlash. But guess what?! I am understanding your POV. Sorry for the sacrilege I think all women want massages but not sure the church is the right place for it. Next, it is always very specific so as to not offend anyone. Heres my updated version: Im so glad when Daddy comes home, I think mixing it up, at least every other year, from Mother I Love You, is nice as a mom. In simple terms his philosophy was that the church is not true because it is madeconsists of people who are imperfect and therefore not always true to all of the ideals taught. It is as if we cannot celebrate anything because if we focus on single day to celebrate one person then we have decimated everyone else. Thats the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me! I asked a mother and daughter to sing the main lines, and then I had the . Dont take us out of Primary to go eat Treats! Weve had sermons based on bumper stickers, Willy Wonka, the Grinch, and quite possibly Chicken Soup for the Soul, etc. By Thats what insulin is for. Those were the kinds of talks I gave, and thats what I would rather listen to. I also have plenty of friends who are single sisters and they mourn growing older and menopause because they wont be able to have the children they want to hold and love. After observing and empathizing with three generations of mothers and thinking of my own dear mother, I surely know that there is no role in life more essential and more eternal than that of motherhood.. Kind of it takes a village/ward to raise a child philosophy. Now, I detest it. (did I mention he and his wife were not parents yet?). It will easily demonstrate the weaknesses in the position: The logic is faulty. The division of labor between the holidays helped to alleviate some of the awkwardness of the women = mothers mindset that we face in the US. Their talks often included poems about the immeasurable amount of crap mothers had to deal with. Ive lived in numerous family wards, and Ive never gotten as much as a crumb for Fathers Day, at least not from church. Many said not to assign "mother" or "female" focused messages in sacrament meeting, others said to keep your efforts simple as long as it is sincere. I think this can be especially true for women who feel theyre just holding on. However, I am concerned about the implications of a people where the female population dislikes the concept of motherhood or at least dislikes it enough that they do not want to celebrate Mother's Day. This has been a great reminder to be sensitive to all in the congregation with the Holy Ghost as a guide.
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